Posts in Personal Development
The Truth About Feedback

After I completed my 200 hour yoga teacher training, I signed up for an additional training opportunity because I wanted to keep on learning and improving my teaching.

During my training, we would often have to practice teach in front of our peers. This way our teachers could provide us feedback on our teaching and give us ways to improve.

One day, when it was my turn to teach, I had a meltdown. As I was teaching, my teacher called out to me, “Just be yourself.”

I was puzzled.

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What Momo Taught Me About Co-Creating with God

TA has been one of my best friends since we first met in junior high.

We instantly bonded during teen night at DV8. Our family would drop us off super early and we’d be some of the only kids there. Out of sheer boredom, we made up a game called, “I Bet You A Penny.” We would watch the entrance and say, “I bet you a penny that the next person who walks in is wearing a striped shirt.” We would literally spend hours doing this until more people got there and the club got hype.

Our stories are very similar because our grandparents played a very significant role in our upbringing. His grandma, Momo, was the sweetest lady you ever met. She always greeted everyone who stopped by their house with a smile and “Are you hungry? I made some food.” Oh, man, could Momo cook. My mouth waters thinking about her enchiladas.

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How to Have an Uncomfortable Conversation

Picture it. 2007. My godson’s baptism.

I am over the moon happy that I am about to be a fairy godmother to my godson (who, if you ask me, looks just like me, even though we aren’t really related by blood).

I take my commitment very seriously. I attend the fairy godmother class in Miami, as is required by the Catholic church. I buy his christening outfit. I also get him a little baptism kit, per the recommendation of the Mexican bazaar where I purchase his outfit. The Baptism kit consists of a candle, seashell, rosary and little towel. I deliver these to my comadre (Spanish for co-mother) the day before the baptism. I am so excited.

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What a 7 Year Old Taught Me About Affirmations (and Life, In General)

My bonus son, James, is an amazing kid.

He is funny, kind, creative, and silly. James loves to draw and ask lots of questions. He also tries to answer those questions and I’m always amazed by his answers. We laugh a lot and he reminds me not to take myself and everything else so seriously (which I have a tendency to do).

When I first met James, we struggled. We were trying to find our flow and get to know each other. We struggled especially when it came to one of my favorite things in the entire world: food.

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The #1 Mistake People Make When It Comes to Affirmations

I always knew that I wanted to be in the music business.

My earliest memories are of me sitting on my swingset in the backyard of my grandmother’s home in Waco, Texas and singing my little heart out. I would make up songs and sing them all day long. My favorite cartoon was Jem. During the summertime, I’d stay up all night watching music video stations like MTV, VH1, BET, and CMT (back when they actually played music videos) and I’d also listen to the Quiet Storm on Dallas’ R&B and Hip Hop station, K104. I’d spend hours making my own mixtapes, carefully crafting the tracklisting and waiting for what seemed like an eternity for specific songs to play on the radio.

Those were definitely different times back then, Honey Bunny!

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What I Wish I Had Known About Affirmations

I flirted with the idea of starting an affirmations practice for years before I actually did it.

I learned about the power of positive thinking and positive self-talk in ninth grade from my Trigonometry teacher. However, I didn’t really learn what an affirmation was until many years later when I was living in Miami At the time, I was working in the music business and trying out pretty much anything that I thought would uplevel my life, including ashtanga yoga and vegetarianism.

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In What Area of Your Life is the Conundrum of Change Affecting you?

Right now, I feel really stuck when it comes to my health.

I am not eating as healthy as I would like to and I’m not exercising the way I used to in my pre-baby days. The excuse I’ve been using is that I don’t want to stress myself out with so many irons in the fire. I want to be an amazing mami and an entrepreneur. I reason that some things will fall by the wayside like housework and health. I also am letting Mommy Thumb keep me from breaking a sweat. It’s crazy because I know that when I exercise and eat right it actually makes me feel better. I have more energy to chase my daughter and more creativity to offer my clients.

I know this. I want this. Yet I don’t do it. This is the conundrum of change in full effect, Honey Bunny.

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Is This the Real Reason You're Staying Stuck in Life?

I’m convinced that one of the worst feelings in the world is holding on to a situation, a person, a mindset that no longer serves our growth or highest good.

I know how this feels firsthand because I, too, have held on longer than I should have several times in my life. From staying at different jobs that stressed me out and didn’t pay me what I was I worth to relationships with friends that were filled with drama, negativity, and gossip, I have overstayed my welcome in circumstances that did not serve my highest good.

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What is One Small Step You Can Take Toward Your Dream Life?

In order to determine which areas of my life are not authentically my own, it’s been really helpful to examine my attitude, specifically for any topic where I am using the word “should.”

I am firm believer that self-awareness is the first step in any change we make. In order to know where I am stuffing myself inside of something that really isn’t mine, I’ve got to know where exactly that is.

I did some self-examination and this is what I found:

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What New Story Are You Creating For Yourself?

Today Lyric turns one year old.

Where has the time gone? Where is my little 6 lbs, 2 oz baby? My pregnancy was difficult and I ended up having a c-section after her heart rate dropped drastically two times during labor and delivery. My incision didn’t heal properly and post partum blues hit me hard. I lost hair and got Mommy’s thumb and I did not feel like a good mom at all. It has taken pretty much this entire year to feel somewhat normal in my body and my daily routine.

Yet here we are -- thriving and blooming in love, joy, and harmony.

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It Doesn't Matter How Your Story Begins

I finally got to see A Wrinkle in Time and let me tell you, it did not disappoint.

In fact, there were several parts that I found myself tearing up. I could identify greatly with Meg, the protagonist, and how she didn’t think that much of herself. I think we have all been there.

At one point during the movie, Mrs. Which, played by the great Oprah Winfrey, says to Meg, “Do you realize how many events, choices, that had to occur since the birth of the universe leading up to the making of you? Just exactly the way you are.”

All. The Feels.

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What Does Giving Yourself Your Best Chance Look Like?

Believe it or not, I put off writing the answer to this IWW for a week because I dreaded having to face the answer.

I know exactly where I am not giving myself my best chance and saying it out loud would make me accountable to all of you. I found myself saying, “Can’t I just write something else, anything other than this?”

Nope.

So here I go.

Giving myself my best chance would look like me doing what I say I’m going to do. I’m specifically thinking about the social media calendar I’ve created for 2018.

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Don’t Worry, Be Yoncé: How to Catapult Yourself Into Your Own Version of Super Stardom

Real talk: I been rocking with Beyoncé since the first time I heard “No, No, No” in high school. It’s no secret that I have tremendous respect for her and all that she has accomplished. It really inspires me that a 36 year old Texas mother of three children under the age of 10 is at the very top of the music game. She shuts down red carpets, award shows, Coachella, the Internet all with the magic of her authentic self.

It’s really easy to think, “Well, Beyoncé is uber successful because she has tons of help. She has a personal trainer, chef, nannies, management company, make-up artists, hair gurus, and a kick ass mama (Hey, Ms. Tina! I love you!) to help her out. I don’t have that kind of help so that’s why I’m not the Beyoncé of my own life.”

While there is truth in that statement, I want you to consider that the megastar Beyoncé that we all know and love today was once Beyoncé Gisselle Knowles, a little girl from Houston, Texas with big dreams.

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Name Your Genius

My genius is that I am really good at vibing with people from all walks of life.

For example, when you look at all of my friends, they are each very, very different. We talk about very different things, too. For example, my friend, Amy, is my silly friend. To this day, we joke like little girls on the playground. My friend, Bevin, is my entrepreneurial friend. We love to jam out on our businesses, our dreams, our future. My friend, Lauren, is my fun friend. We love to talk about having a good time, music, adventure. My friend, Angela, is my sister. She gives me room to be myself with no judgment. Granted, I realize I am grossly simplifying these women into one sentence descriptions. However, they are just too wonderful to capture in a blog post.

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