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The #1 Mistake People Make When It Comes to Affirmations

I always knew that I wanted to be in the music business.

My earliest memories are of me sitting on my swingset in the backyard of my grandmother’s home in Waco, Texas and singing my little heart out. I would make up songs and sing them all day long. My favorite cartoon was Jem. During the summertime, I’d stay up all night watching music video stations like MTV, VH1, BET, and CMT (back when they actually played music videos) and I’d also listen to the Quiet Storm on Dallas’ R&B and Hip Hop station, K104. I’d spend hours making my own mixtapes, carefully crafting the tracklisting and waiting for what seemed like an eternity for specific songs to play on the radio.

Those were definitely different times back then, Honey Bunny!

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What I Wish I Had Known About Affirmations

I flirted with the idea of starting an affirmations practice for years before I actually did it.

I learned about the power of positive thinking and positive self-talk in ninth grade from my Trigonometry teacher. However, I didn’t really learn what an affirmation was until many years later when I was living in Miami At the time, I was working in the music business and trying out pretty much anything that I thought would uplevel my life, including ashtanga yoga and vegetarianism.

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Don’t Worry, Be Yoncé: How to Catapult Yourself Into Your Own Version of Super Stardom

Real talk: I been rocking with Beyoncé since the first time I heard “No, No, No” in high school. It’s no secret that I have tremendous respect for her and all that she has accomplished. It really inspires me that a 36 year old Texas mother of three children under the age of 10 is at the very top of the music game. She shuts down red carpets, award shows, Coachella, the Internet all with the magic of her authentic self.

It’s really easy to think, “Well, Beyoncé is uber successful because she has tons of help. She has a personal trainer, chef, nannies, management company, make-up artists, hair gurus, and a kick ass mama (Hey, Ms. Tina! I love you!) to help her out. I don’t have that kind of help so that’s why I’m not the Beyoncé of my own life.”

While there is truth in that statement, I want you to consider that the megastar Beyoncé that we all know and love today was once Beyoncé Gisselle Knowles, a little girl from Houston, Texas with big dreams.

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The Best That Ever Did It: How to Give Yourself Credit Without Cringing

For as long as I can remember, I have had a really hard time talking about my accomplishments.

We’re talking all the way back to elementary school, where kids have no filter and just tell it like it is. Whenever anyone would ask me how I did on the test, I’d say, “Oh, I passed.” I never mentioned the fact that I got the highest grade in the class.

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What Does Self-Love Look Like In Your Life?

I’ll admit that when I first heard the term “self-love,” it sounded like some code word for masturbation. 😬

While I learned the importance of loving myself, I’m not certain I ever knew that there was a specific term to denote the process. However, you’re talking to someone who didn’t know there was such a thing as hot tea until I was 16 years old. True story. 😬

I digress.

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I Love Me: Taking The Necessary Steps Back to Self-Love

A good friend of mine recently recounted to me the first time she accepted less than she deserved and started to believe the story of her unworthiness.

As a sixth grader (sixth grade!!! The mom in me shudders), she had fallen head over heels for a boy in her class. He was cute, charming, and, much to her surprise, into her. “LaTisha, he was way out of my league and I couldn’t believe he was into me. I was tomboyish and chubby. He asked me out and I agreed. I was 11 years old. It was the most powerful, intoxicating feeling -- that young love feeling. So much so, that even as an adult I can close my eyes and still feel that feeling of hope, wanting, and love. I have never felt that way since.”

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Never Waste A Good Trigger: How to Harness the Power of Discomfort

In 2014, I did my 200 hour yoga teacher training at YogaOne Studios in Houston, Texas.

It was a life changing experience because I was asked to step outside of my comfort zone into a new way of being. My teachers, Roger and Albina, led our group, The Incredibles, thru many different exercises designed to inspire us to examine our beliefs and actions.

For one week, we worked sun-up to sun-down. We were physically and emotionally exhausted. It was the perfect environment for us to be triggered. There were many moments where I found myself shutting down or breaking down into tears, some of which I had no real clue why.

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The Simple, Impactful Strategy That Helped Me Change My Life

I went thru my rebellious phase in middle school. I never gave much thought to anything but being with my friends and having fun. My friends were having fun by getting in trouble and I started to go down that road, too. However, I had a mom who really loves me and she put me in private school.

I HATED IT.

Back then, I didn’t see how much of a blessing it really was. Now that I’m older and a mom, I do.

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How To Regain Control of Yourself in An Argument

I could feel the anger taking over my body. 

It was like a furnace, once you turned it on, it was ready to burn. My face felt flushed and my fists balled up reactively, ready to strike at any moment. It took me a minute to find my voice, but once I did, molten lava spewed out, burning all caught in the crossfire. I felt like Black Mamba in Kill Bill when she went apeshit.

And then it happened.

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What Are You Really Good At?

LaTisha’s Answer: I am really good at making people feel heard, understood, and loved. When I put 100% of my focus on the person in front of me, it’s like sunshine hitting a flower -- they open up and blossom right in front of me. I literally can get you entire life story in under five minutes flat, if I really wanted to.

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If You Want to Sell Your Skills, You Gotta Sasha Fierce Yourself

Let’s face it: Even if you’ve never worked a day in Sales, you’re still a salesperson. What exactly are you selling? Your skills. Honey Bunny, if you haven’t figured out it out by now, the “productivity preceeds promotion -- bury your head in work and they will recognize your contribution” method of career development DOES NOT WORK. Most of the time, the higher ups have no real clue about everything you do on a daily basis and what exactly goes into putting out the fires that you douse on the regular.

That being said, it is of the utmost importance that you are able to communicate your value to the world at large. You can be the most capable, most talented, best suited for the job, but that means nothing if no one else knows that.

How do I talk about myself, LaTisha? I have such a hard time with this.

Don’t worry, boo. I got you. You’re going to Sasha Fierce yourself.

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The Three Best Kept Secrets of Your Professional Path (Trust me, It's Not What You Think)

Picture it. Senior year at Agnes Scott College.

Graduation was looming on the horizon. I had no job offers and was getting anxious at the thought of returning to my hometown as a failure. I really wanted to be in the music business, but had yet to land any type of offer. I was still interning at the Atlanta Chapter of The Recording Academy, which gave me hope. Yet, as the days passed, I could feel myself getting more and more discouraged.

In an effort to make something happen, I contacted my Women in Communications mentor, who worked at The Weather Channel, and she got me an interview for an entry level position. I can’t remember the exact job description. However, I do know it had something to do with the commercials that ran during program breaks. I met with the supervisor of that department and I really tried to be enthusiastic -- about the position, the company, my experience (as limited as it was), and the dedication I was bringing to the table. She asked me about the internships I had done so far -- one at Odyssey Entertainment, one at Paste Magazine, one at The Recording Academy -- all music related. I talked about projects I worked on, how committed I was to delivering good work, how excited I was about the future.

“Wow. That’s great. It sounds like you’re really passionate about music. Why don’t you just continue to work in music?”

I can imagine the look on my face as my jaw dropped. It was obvious to everyone in the interview that day that what made me tick was music.

I can’t even remember what my response was. It was a clumsy mumble. Needless to say, I didn’t get that job. It was the only job interview I had during my Senior year in college.

I did not secure a job before I graduated from college. 

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The #1 Myth You Believe That Impacts Your Company's Bottom Line

Taking care of ourselves intuitively makes sense. If you don’t eat healthy, exercise, or get enough sleep, you’ll more than likely get sick and/or feel like crap. It’s a pretty simple concept to grasp. However, simple does not necessarily mean easy. In fact, self-care is downright difficult, especially when it asks us to change our #1 widely held belief --

"I don't have time."

What if I told you that the best thing you can do for your company's bottom line is to take care of yourself?

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If You Really Want to Succeed At Anything, You've Got To Be Okay With This

If you really want to succeed at anything, you’ve got to be okay with failure. Loss. Defeat. Mistakes.

Ooh, LaTisha, that is a tough one.

  • I’d rather eat dirt.

  • I don’t like to lose.

  • I hate admitting defeat.

  • I will go out of my way to avoid failure, even if that means I never move forward in my life.

  • I cannot bear the shame and embarrassment that accompanies making a mistake.

Sound somewhat familiar? All of us have some level of aversion to the one thing that we actually need to be okay with in order to succeed at anything in life.

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