I’m gonna be honest with you: in the past, each time one of my romantic relationships failed, I blamed it on me not being lovable enough. I was too difficult, too demanding, too unrelenting. No one would ever be able to love me that way.Read More
Let’s face it: when you start your affirmations practice, you very quickly realize that you’ve got your work cut out for you. For every positive thought that you think on purpose such as, “I deserve to live a life I love,” you’ve literally got a gazillion negative ones, such as, “You’re not enough and you never will be,” screaming at you.Read More
From the moment we are born, we learn the importance of our numbers.
What was your weight and length at birth?
How many teeth do you have, little guy?
How many words do you know?
What did you get on your report card?
Self-love is a lifelong journey.
I say journey because it really is a traversing of the self. You’ll find yourself in your own version of the Odyssey and the Iliad. You’ll be faced with circumstances, people and things that reveal to you all of the places inside of you that need your attention, healing and self-love. You will be challenged to examine and let go of any belief that doesn’t serve your highest good. You’ll be pushed outside of your comfort zone and asked to see things from a different perspective (and not the same rabbit hole you frequent day in and day out).Read More
Real talk, HB: you are the most important person in your life.
You are the vehicle thru which your entire life is lived. You are the only person in your life that will be there from the very beginning until the very end. You are the person who is with you as you stand atop life’s mountains and you are the person who comforts you when you are in the depths of life’s valleys. You are the person who bears the brunt of your negative thinking and self-sabotage. You are the one who is affected by years of chronic stress and family drama. You are the only person in your life who knows 100% what it’s like to be you.Read More
Back in September, Lyric and I took Mama Terry to Magnolia Table for her birthday.
We had a fantastic time. For me, there is nothing more precious than to see my two little ladies, the woman who brought me into this world and the baby who made me a mama, together. I am so very grateful for the light they shine so brightly into my life.Read More
The first time I tried Ashtanga yoga, I went home and cried after class.
It was so hard and I felt so out of shape. I didn’t even do much, either. My teacher, Tim, showed me Sun Salutation A and B, which I clumsily stumbled thru the best I could.Read More
Real talk: we go to great lengths to make ourselves “lovable.”
We lose 30 pounds, change our hair color, read self-help books, try to appear interesting and beautiful so that others will see our worth and love us.
We do this because we secretly believe that, if other people, especially our significant others, love us, then all of our issues will magically disappear.
After all, love is the reason we’re here, right? The truth: yes and no.Read More
I’ll admit that when I first heard the term “self-love,” it sounded like some code word for masturbation. 😬
While I learned the importance of loving myself, I’m not certain I ever knew that there was a specific term to denote the process. However, you’re talking to someone who didn’t know there was such a thing as hot tea until I was 16 years old. True story. 😬
I digress.Read More
A good friend of mine recently recounted to me the first time she accepted less than she deserved and started to believe the story of her unworthiness.
As a sixth grader (sixth grade!!! The mom in me shudders), she had fallen head over heels for a boy in her class. He was cute, charming, and, much to her surprise, into her. “LaTisha, he was way out of my league and I couldn’t believe he was into me. I was tomboyish and chubby. He asked me out and I agreed. I was 11 years old. It was the most powerful, intoxicating feeling -- that young love feeling. So much so, that even as an adult I can close my eyes and still feel that feeling of hope, wanting, and love. I have never felt that way since.”Read More