Self-Love Truthbomb: You Are More Than Your Numbers
From the moment we are born, we learn the importance of our numbers.
What was your weight and length at birth?
How many teeth do you have, little guy?
How many words do you know?
What did you get on your report card?
How many donuts did you eat for breakfast, young lady?
What score did you get on the SATs?
How many colleges did you get into?
We learn from a very young age to be in tune with our numbers as it pertains to our body, our finances, our family life, our achievements and our failures. We learn to strive in order to thrive, to push and shove so that the numbers we see reflect back to us the greatness inside of us. Our numbers tell us how lovable we really are and it’s super important to always measure our progress, right?
I want you to stop and consider that maybe we’ve gotten it all wrong.
Perhaps our numbers don’t really mean what we’ve made them mean all these years. Perhaps our worthiness cannot be contained within our numbers because it is immeasurable. Perhaps our lovability supersedes human comprehension and calculation because it is not human, at all. It is God given; therefore, it is as vast as the ocean and invisible to human eye, just like oxygen we breathe daily.
It’s time to acknowledge that you, my precious HB, are more than the numbers you see:
When you step on the scale
When you check your bank account
When you get your grade back from your Accounting class
When you check your credit score
When you look at the number of likes and followers you have on social media
When you go to renew your driver’s license and realize that you’re closer to 40 than you are 30
When you try on a new dress at Target
You are so much more than those numbers.
I know it’s easy for me to say, “Honey Bunny, don’t be ruled by the numbers you see. Don’t let them take over your beautiful life and become your obsession.”
I get it. It never ends.
We’ve been programmed to put tremendous pressure on ourselves to seek out perfection: on the scale, in our bank account, our grades, our likability, our looks, our knowledge. We’re expected to climb the ladder at work, get a good hour long workout, have perfect hair, and have dinner on the table when the kids get home. We’re expected to be the perfect wife, daughter, student, product manager, etc.
It’s exhausting and not very fun to be ruled by your numbers.
I hope that you will take time this week to contemplate a world where you are free from the limitations, obligations, and rules that make you treat yourself like an ant under a magnifying glass in the hot summer sun.
What would that feel like and look like in your world? What is available to you when you say, “I am more than my numbers AND I deserve to thrive?” How would you show up to life if you were only expected to be your best, authentic self? What would you do and who would you allow yourself to be if you freed yourself from the tremendous pressure of perfectionism?
Don’t get it twisted: I am NOT telling you to toss all your numbers out the window.
I think it’s important for you to know your credit score and how much money you have in the bank. It’s also good to know your cholesterol level and how many minutes you spent on the Stairmaster. You need to know your Accounting grade because you’ll have an idea of what you need to spend your time studying and improving.
What I am suggesting is that you examine the relationship that you have with your numbers. Are you letting them become the basis of your self-loathing and self-sabotage? Are you telling yourself the story that you’ll never be able to change those numbers? Are those numbers ammunition in your arsenal that you use to bully yourself into believing that you are unworthy and unlovable?
In essence, I am telling you is that it’s time to reframe how the meaning you’re assigning to those numbers:
Bad credit? It’s an opportunity for you to experience your ability to manifest prosperity in your life.
Failing Corporate Investments? It’s time for you to reach out to your wizkid classmate and ask for tutoring. That’s an opportunity to build relationship.
Gained 30 pounds after childbirth? You’ve been blessed with a little miracle of a child and the opportunity to truly know the depths of your strength and resilience.
It’s time to contemplate your true nature.
As George MacDonald said, “You don’t have a soul. You are a soul. You have a body.”
You are a child of God having a human experience. Remember your divinity the next time you start giving yourself a hard time about your numbers. I don’t believe that God put you here to obsess over your numbers, day in and day out. Change the way you’re looking at your life and you’ll see that your life changes.
Now it’s your turn. Comment below and let me know what numbers have been ruling your life lately. How can you remind yourself to choose a new way of being and to give yourself the beautiful gift of your own compassion?
I’m cheering for you. Like you’ve had the power all along.