Loving the Unlovable
Happy Monday, HB!
I love social media because it has connected us more than ever. It’s given me a platform to connect with my clients, readers and followers so that I can share helpful tips and perspective. I always say that my intention is to give you tools and techniques that you can use to live your best life right now. When you live your best life, you change the lives of those around you and inspire them to do the same. Next thing you know, we are living in a world where people have finally realized that only love is real.
I also know that I have moments where I am using social media to feed the self-limiting belief that I am not enough just the way I am. For example, I’m constantly on Instagram since I post consistently and reach people from all walks of life there. My dirty little secret is that I also use it to compare myself and get down on myself for everything I’m not doing and the progress I have yet to make.
In those moments, I feel very unlovable, even though I know it’s untrue and very irrational. I just can’t seem to help myself, though.
The sad thing is I’m not alone. How many of us compare our behind-the-scenes footage to the highlight reel that others post on their feeds? We beat ourselves up and hold ourselves to an impossible standard. The reality, however, is that there’s so much we don’t see, that isn’t shown and/or hidden behind a beautiful filter or Photoshop.
I want you to know today (and I’m reminding myself, too) that every part of you is worthy of love, even the parts that you think are unlovable. At your best you are love (I love that song!) and at your worst you are still love. When you’re dancing around to fit into your jeans (I normally lay down on the bed -- I find that works), when you’re hating your hair, when you’re fumbling thru a presentation at work.
All of you, every moment of you, every age of you, every stage of you, is worthy of love. Take a moment to really breathe that in.
I prayed for my daughter for a really long time and now that she’s here, I still stare at her in wonder and amazement. She is a miracle. I’ve never seen anyone more beautiful, more amazing, more worthy. I shudder at the thought that one day she might doubt her worth or loathe the way her body looks. The thought of her living anything less than her best life makes me want to cry because I know her worth. I know because I spent many tear-filled moments asking (begging, really) for her to be born.
Then I stop to think: this is how God feels about each of us.
The Universe watches us from the front row, cheers us on and waits for us to ask for its participation in the gorgeous co-creation of our lives. How God must shudder when he witnesses us self-sabotaging, self-loathing, and/or living anything less than our best lives.
Yet the Source never gives up on us and always believes that we can live out our highest potential because this is our birthright. It’s encoded in our DNA: every cell inside of us literally wants to thrive and really live life to the fullest.
This week pay attention to the moments where you are believing yourself to be unlovable. Notice where you are, what you’re doing and who/what is influencing you. As I mentioned in last week’s blog post, for every negative thought you think about yourself, think three positive ones. This is your way of retraining your brain and not allowing yourself to go down the rabbit hole of self-bashing.
You are too important and you’ve got things to do, boo.
Now it’s your turn. Comment below and let me know when you experience your unlovable moments and one action you can take to turn the tide of your thoughts.
I’m cheering for you. Like the Universe and I are sharing popcorn while watching your epic life story on the big screen.
From the Front Row,
Master Life Coach + Motivational Speaker