Can You Take This?
Happy Monday, HB!
When I was younger, I had a very hard time with compliments. I didn’t quite like the way they made me feel -- this strange mix of pleasure and discomfort that made me want to both hide under the table and bust out into song, all at the same time.
If someone praised my performance, I’d bust into a sheepish mumble of, “Oh, it’s nothing.” Or if someone complimented my outfit, I’d immediately launch into, “Girl, I got this at Target on clearance.” I would dismiss and downplay whatever beautiful things were being said about me because I didn’t really believe they were true.
Today I want you to consider that your ability to take a compliment is a reflection of how much you value yourself. Do you believe what the other person is telling you or do you convince yourself that they’re just being nice and taking pity on you? Do you allow yourself to receive praise? Or do you internally reject the compliment and continue to believe the worst about yourself?
If this is you, the time has come to make a change.
From now on, when someone gives you a compliment, this is your new best practice --
Stop and breathe in what the person in front of you is saying. You are being given a gift.
Look at the person in the eye, smile and say, “Thank you.”
No need to downplay, dismiss, minimize, explain. You just soak it in and give thanks.
Want to uplevel? Keep track of every single compliment you receive (no matter how big or small) and read this list before you go to bed.
Compliments are the Universe’s way of saying, “You glow, girl. Look at you, stuntin on ‘em. I see you, boo. Yasssss.” God is just using human angels on earth to get the message to you.
Want to take part of this phenomena?
Pay attention to what’s going on and begin to speak what you see. If you see someone doing a really good job, let them know. Honor someone’s beauty, intelligence, resourcefulness, kindness, etc. Don’t let those thoughts of praise just stay in your head because you never really know when someone else desperately needs words of encouragement and praise.
It reminds all of us that we’re not alone.
HB, start believing every single compliment you receive. If someone is going out of his/her way to say something nice about you, 99.99% of the time it’s because they truly mean it. You are fabulous, intelligent and creative -- let people bask in your you-ness. After all, there is literally NO ONE in the entire world like you.
Now it’s your turn. Forward this e-mail to someone and give them a genuine compliment.
I’m cheering for you. Like all of the angels in heaven do every single day.