Let’s face it: we live in a world where busyness is celebrated.
The busier, the better. It means we are needed. We are important. The world as we know it would fall apart if we don’t continue to spin. We do this weird boasting/complaining about how busy our calendar is — rushing from meeting to meeting, project to project, moment to moment. We’re unhappy about it, but at the same time, there's some vague sense of meaning to our lives. At least that’s something, right?
Our minds run non-stop and our bodies are exhausted. We down our lattes and our energy drinks, scarf down our fast food so that we can get back to work. We speed thru life and get nowhere fast. It never ends. I don't know about you, but that shit is tiring and not very fun. Oh, wait. What’s fun, anyway? Numbing ourselves out with anything that can make us forget that we aren’t very happy and we certainly aren’t very peaceful.
Furthermore, we live in a world where putting ourselves last is celebrated. Self-care? What’s that? Self-love? “I am not a narcissist,” we proudly proclaim to anyone who will listen. We give until we can’t give anymore and there certainly isn’t anything left for us. Resentment grows, relationships end, and disease ensues. All because we haven’t put ourselves on our own priority list.
When you start your spiritual journey, you quickly realize that you’ve got your work cut out for you. It’s not a one and done, say this quick prayer and everything will be good forever type experience. It’s an entire overhaul of the mind — developing self-awareness, identifying harmful beliefs and patterns, retraining the brain, surrender, and consistency. Day in and day out. I don’t say this to overwhelm you. I say this, so that when you fall down, you don’t get discouraged and quit.
You get back up, dust yourself off, and start all over again. And again. And again. As many times as it takes.
One of the things that tends to happen is doubt enters your mind and makes you question why you’re putting in all this work, especially if at first you’re not reaping the benefits. Why should I be putting myself first? Why should I be retraining my brain? Why is my personal peace important? Shouldn’t I be concentrating on world peace?
All valid questions. Here are three reasons why your personal peace is super important, not only to you, but to your community and the world at large.
Reason #1 — Quite simply, your personal peace is world peace.
We go through life thinking that we are all separate beings. Physically, we are. I have a human body and so do you. They are not one and the same. This is very true and we often base too much importance on this separation. What is also true (and often overlooked) is that we all have a living spirit in us — that je ne sais quoi that pulses through us all. Many different philosophies and religions explain this spirit in different ways. I simply think of it as the spark that starts the engine and keeps it chugging along during our time on earth. I recently read Doreen Virtue’s “10 Messages Your Angels Want You To Know,” where this idea is explained so beautifully.
We are all leaves on the same tree.
We aren’t separate trees. We are all of the same tree. So spiritually there is no differentiation. Therefore, when we focus on our own personal peace, we are, in fact, focusing on world peace.
Which brings us to reason #2 — You are the butterfly effect in all its glory.
The butterfly effect was discovered by Edward Lorenz, who studied weather and put together a mathematical model of the weather. According to the website, Chaos & Fractals, the butterfly effect basically explains that, “a butterfly flapping its wings in South America can affect the weather in Central Park.”
By focusing on your own personal peace, you create a ripple effect throughout the world, even if you don’t realize it. Your commitment to peace shows up in your thoughts, your words, your action, your energy. You don’t even have to say a word — the energy you emit will speak volumes for you. People will be drawn to you and inspired by you.
Reason #3 — Your input determines your output.
In other words, the way you approach your life has a very big impact on what manifests in your life. Just as Eckart Tolle says, “Get the inside right and the outside will fall into place.” This takes serious commitment and consistency. Again, your commitment to peace is not a one and done prayer.
It is a practice. I equate it to when a toddler begins the journey of walking. They first start by standing up, holding onto the coffee table. Then a step here, a step there, still supported by the coffee table. Then you take them by the hands and help them along. Then the day comes when take their first steps alone. They fall on their butt. They giggle. They do it all over again. They take the failure with a sense of delight and “Oh, let’s try this again. Maybe a little differently this time.”
Upon falling down, never do they say, “Oh, my goodness, I suck at this! I’m never doing this again.” Not at all. They pick themselves up, dust themselves off, and start all over again. Your input (your attitude, your mindset, your commitment) determines your output. Don’t get discouraged by what you perceive as failure. Be empowered by the chance to begin again.
Keep in mind — you don’t have to be perfect in order to be impactful. There will be days that you don’t put your personal peace first. Follow the steps that I’ve outlined in my blog post, “The Biggest Misconception About Walking A Spiritual Path” and get back on track.
Comment below and let me know about your commitment to personal peace — How has this commitment changed your life? What changes have you made? What challenges have you faced or are currently facing?