In order to determine which areas of my life are not authentically my own, it’s been really helpful to examine my attitude, specifically for any topic where I am using the word “should.”
I am firm believer that self-awareness is the first step in any change we make. In order to know where I am stuffing myself inside of something that really isn’t mine, I’ve got to know where exactly that is.
I did some self-examination and this is what I found:
I use the word “should” a lot when it comes to being a mom. I should be the one caring for my baby at all times. I should be enjoying this experience every single moment of every single day. I should be more energetic. I should be better at this. I should appear more put together. I should be a better mother.
Should, should, should.
I realize that I’ve been putting a lot of pressure on myself because I’ve been comparing myself and my motherhood to those gorgeous Instagram accounts from moms who not only have time to cook every single meal made with only organic materials from scratch but they also have time to fix their hair and flawless make-up.
I unfollowed every single account that didn’t make me feel good about myself. I also came to the conclusion that my experience of motherhood is my own, not anyone else’s. Lyric and I have our own little groove and I don’t have to explain, justify, showcase, or make it anything other than what it is.
This has given me a lot of peace and I feel a little more confident in my abilities as a mom. That to me is a dream life.
Now it’s your turn. Comment below and let me know one small step that you can take toward your dream life.
I’m cheering for you. Like you’ve let go of all the “should” in your life.