I've said it before:I struggle with feeling worthy of owning a business and allowing my business to be really successful.
It is complicated because, at the same time, I know, deep down inside, that I have everything I need to be successful and that I can really do it.
How is it possible that these two opposite beliefs exist in the same space?
Thanks to Nancy Levin’s book, Worthy: Boost Your Self-Worth to Grow Your Net Worth, I realize that the part of me that does not feel worthy and that thinks that making money is hard work with little to show for it comes from my childhood. As a child, I watched Mama Terry work very hard for little pay. I saw her scrimp and save to get my back to school layaway out just in time for the first day of school. While I NEVER ever went without, my little brain interpreted the events in a specific way that still affects me today.
In Worthy, Nancy explains that it is our self worth that determines our net worth. We will only receive that which we believe we are worthy of receiving. She says that, as children, we created beliefs that helped us process the world and to ultimately keep us safe. As adults, we still have those beliefs, no matter how irrational they are, floating around in our subconscious. Whenever we want to do something that goes outside of those beliefs, our “inner child” works very hard to stop us from doing it because she wants to keep us safe. That’s why we self-sabotage or do things that we know aren’t in our best interest. It’s all in the name of staying safe, whatever version, no matter how counterintuitive, that we adopted in our childhood.
With the help of this book, I’ve been exploring the self-limiting beliefs and excuses I hold that pertain to my financial power. It has not been easy to shine light on these beliefs, some of which I either thought I had already dealt with or I’ve just become aware of with the help of this book. I’m a firm believer that you’ve got to feel to heal, so, although super uncomfortable and embarrassing, I am committed to the exploration and healing.
I now can see how my procrastination or my hesitation to follow through with actions that I know would be super beneficial for my business are excuses that keep me firmly stuck in the overarching theme of not being worthy of entrepreneurial success.
I now know that my focus is on building up my self-worth, shining light on beliefs that don’t serve me, and creating/affirming new beliefs that support my endeavors. Sounds pretty straightforward, but I know that when it comes to beliefs that we’ve held for a long time, it can be a very slippery slope.
Now it’s your turn. Comment below and let me know what self-limiting thoughts float around in your mind.
I’m cheering for you. Like you just won the lottery.
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