This Texas girl recently spent a week in the Big Apple. It was cold and rainy, but that didn't stop me from soaking up much needed inspiration. There's something so magical about New York City -- you can't help but tap into your inner mogul and want to make major moves. Jay is absolutely right -- if you can make it in the city that never sleeps, you truly can make it anywhere.
Over the past week, I have been sharing with you some tips on how to tap into your own empire state of mind.
Here's your seventh tip --
Let's face it: New Yorkers are tough. They have to be. They live in an uber-crowded city that has some extreme weather throughout the year. A necessity in the wardrobe of a tough New Yorker is a fresh pair of Tims. Timberland boots are strong, durable, and take no ish from their environment or the weather. If you want to make it in any arena of life, you've got to learn to do the same.
Don't get it twisted: rejection sucks. Pretty much no one in the entire world likes getting rejected. It is not a good feeling. However, it isn't a reason to not put yourself out there or keep from living your life.
I recently had an interesting interaction -- I contacted a woman about potentially partnering up on some amazing opportunities. Her response to me was less than kind -- it was abrupt and pretty much rude. I would be lying if I said that there wasn't a part of me that didn't cringe at her rejection. "Hey, I'm a likable person. I know what I'm talking about. I care about people. I want to be of service to my community and the world at large. Why not partner with me?" Well, she was not picking up what I was putting down.
After the initial sting wore off, I blessed her in my mind and occupied myself with productive business (like blogging!) instead of ruminating over the rejection. Wouldn't you know it? I had someone who is interested in what I'm offering contact me. Tip #4 in full effect, yo!
Listen, there are over 7 billion people in the world. You don't need everyone to be down with you. Quality trumps quantity every time. Not everyone is going to want or need what you're serving up. THAT IS OKAY. Even if you get 100 NO's, the reality is that you only need a handful of meaningful YES's.
YT Pro Tip: Adopt the mantra, "Every NO is leading to the perfect YES." You don't need everyone to hop on the A Train, nor should you want them to. Your big break is coming. Throw yourself a pity party, but don't stay too long. Feel the sting of rejection and then do like Taylor Swift, shake it off, and get back to work.
Your dreams are too important to shrink because you're afraid of getting rejected OR because someone didn't respond the way you wanted them to. Keep it moving and the right people will come your way.
Your soul is rooting for you and so am I.